The reason why an ugly guy can have a hot girlfriend is that women can feel attracted to men for reasons other than looks. Some women will only ever accept a perfect looking male model with lo of money and huge penis, but the majority of women have what I call an Open Type, which means that she is open to being with all different types of guys, as long as the guy can make her feel enough attraction in other ways.
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Some of the many ways that you can attract women are with your confidence, charisma, charm, humor and masculine vibe. Attraction noun : A quality or feature of someone that evokes interest, liking or desire. If a man is able to make a woman feel attracted to him in other ways e. Even though he might have features that some people would consider ugly e. Most women have an Open Type and are willing to be with all different types of guys e.
When a guy who would normally be considered below-average looking or even ugly meets a woman with an Open Type, the attraction that he is making her feel will cause her to begin looking at his less attractive traits in a more positive light. Some women will only accept a good looking guy. That is true.
However, most women place way less importance on looks than most guys realize. Why is she with him? The reason why you think that women is that you always see beautiful women with handsome men in advertising images from the media, so it almost looks WRONG when a hot chick is with an ugly guy in public.
It looks like she is making a mistake by being with him. Either that, or he must be rich, have a huge dick or be famous, right?
You can literally attract women in more than different ways I teach those ways throughout my programs at The Modern Man. Some examples are confidence, charisma, charm and humor. This is because our attraction for women is mostly based on physical appearance, which is why men masturbate over women in porn.
Her appearance is enough for us to be willing to have sex wit her…at least once anyway. How his personality and behavior makes her feel when she interacts with him. For example: Does his vibe and conversation style turn her on, or does it make her feel awkward and bored? When a man makes a woman feel attracted in ways other than looks, she will label him as attractive and even sexy…even if you think he is ugly.
For every picky woman who will only ever accept a very handsome man, there is always a beautiful woman who simply wants a good-natured man who makes her feel attracted and in love. No guy can. No man is compatible with every woman that he meets and no woman is compatible with every guy that she meets.
Whether you are a good looking guy, average looking, below average looking or even ugly, what you need to understand is that you really can make women feel attracted to you for ways OTHER than looks. You can turn a woman on with your masculine vibe, make her melt with your charismatic charm and make her feel so good by using the type of humor that women love.
They always talk about superficial stuff e. There is nothing wrong with improving your physical appearance or improving your career to earn more money, but the fact is that you can still get laid or get a hot girlfriend BEFORE you do any of those things. Some women do only want a guy who has it all, but most women are way easier to pick up than they make themselves out to be. I thought that women felt attracted to men for the same reasons that we feel attracted to women.
I saw that as the woman making a mistake or being stupid enough to fall for a guy like that. I spent a lot of time trying to make myself LOOK better to women e. I was just another brainwashed modern man who thought he was right, but had no idea how wrong he was.
In the peacock bird species, the female is a bland looking bird and the male is the pretty, colorful one. He gets selected based on how colorful and pretty he is. You are a human man and in our species, most women not all choose a man based on how his personality and behavior makes her feel. The first was with a drunk girl I lucked onto at a party and the other was a prostitute.
I try talking to women and they seem interested at first but the conversation never goes anywhere. I walk around the mall for hours on end trying to do it day after day but never doing it. I hate seeing an attractive women with some dweeby boyfriend holding hands.
What am I doing wrong?? How can I change? Please Dan I am asking you to help me. AND also find it difficult too talking to guys.
AND this has made feel me so shy when i try to approach women and the woman can just see directly from me so i really need your help. Where am I going wrong Dan? How can I be the man that women want? Why are they getting rejected even though women are telling them how handsome they are? If it was the answer, you would never see average, below average or ugly looking guys with beautiful women.
To be successful with women, you have to know how to attract women with your personality. The most important types of attraction that women feel happen when you interact with them. For example: Are you able to make her laugh and feel aroused when talking to you, or are you just talking to her in a friendly, polite way like every other guy?
Sure, some women will do that usually the unattractive onesbut most women look for deeper, more subtle qualities in men. You really can attract, pick up, have sex with and even MARRY a beautiful woman without being a good looking guy with a perfect gym body. Most women have what I call an Open Type, which means that they are opening to being with all different types of guys as long as the guy can make her feel attracted in other ways e. It really is true. Dan Bacon is a dating and relationship expert.
He knows the secret to attracting and picking up women for sex and relationships, which has allowed him to enjoy his choice of women for many years. Watch this free training and he will share the secret with you. Which can be quite annoying to us average folk who are still below the mastery level.
Most women place less importance on looks than most guys realize
At just the approaching part most of them have the advantage already. Being good-looking,some of them are already inherently confident, and I feel like they receive less resistance from women. But those are just my sentiments. I still do believe you when you say that personality wins out in the end.
Yes, you are right and thanks for acknowledging that my point is right in the end too. In most cases, they get rejected after the first phone call or date because of their nervousness, lack of social skills, inability to make the woman feel various types of attraction, etc. I do get higher self-esteem everytime I notice a girl giving me the look…. But self-esteem and confidence are not the same thing. I think confidence should already be there before looks are even considered.
Yes, there is a huge difference in having high self-esteem about yourself and being confident in yourself and your abilities. I think a couple of dictionary definitions may help:.
Many guys have a good impression of themselves e. Men do so even more dont you think? A man wont even approach a woman if he is not physically attracted to her means he can imagine having sex with herno matter how nice her personality is etc. Dan, I think this article is really on the money—and the logical side of me can do nothing but agree with it completely.
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Sometimes I feel like I look fine, other times I feel average majorityand there are times where I feel totally unattractive. Could this type of outlook present an issue when it comes to developing the confidence and charisma that women are attracted to? Yes, confidence is something that you need to build and take care of yourself. Your insecurities feed on the power that YOU give to them. However, more importantly, so does confidence. If you find that you get nervous when talking to a woman you like, fear approaching women you find attractive or feel anxious on a date, women will be able to pick up on that.
Women are naturally attracted to confidence in a man and naturally turned off by nervousness and anxiety. Having the appearance factor has allowed me to skip all that mess.