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Teens have many different kinds of friends. There are casual acquaintances, associates, classmates, school friends, friends from camp or church or dance or soccer, all with varying and shifting degrees of closeness. In contrast to the analysis in Chapter 1, this portion of the survey involved questions that asked teens to focus on all of the ways in which they spend time and interact with the friend who is closest to them.

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Something scares you. These things might worry you, but something else makes your palms sweat and your pulse hit triple digits: asking someone out on a date. It makes the remaining friendship awkward at best, humiliating at worst. Revealing romantic feelings is a risky business. Many people find a way around the risk. Or at least they think they do.

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Many of us are now feeling a pull to connect with someone from our past. After all, you can be around people all day — children, spouses, roommates — and still feel lonely. You might be missing your most intimate relationships, your fun acquaintances and the communities you belong to that bring out certain sides of your personality. Because when we feel lonely, studies show we also tend to be more impulsive. You might also be feeling bolder because of the pandemic.

Studies show that being aware of our own mortality — a psychological concept called mortality salience — makes us want to pull our friendships close. Another reason for looking to rekindle old relationships is that you might be seeking comfort.

When it’s best to maintain distance

Research shows that friendship fundamentally alters the way we perceive stress. Marisa Francoa psychologist and relationship expert.

Before you reach out, experts agree you should think about what your intentions are. Did your friendship officially — or unofficially — end? Was there betrayal or disloyalty involved?

Why you stopped talking to each other will influence how you approach the person and how that acquaintance responds to you. Get as clear a picture as possible before you reach out. Not every friendship is a good one. If your friendship was codependent, one-sided or unhealthy in any way, proceed with extreme caution.

Too casual, too intimate, too distant, too far

Franco said. Think of the positive relationships that made you feel valued. There was loyalty, trust and vulnerability too. If those sort of friendships are coming to mind, Dr. Franco thinks you should definitely reach out.

Are we dating or not?

Research shows that people tend to be forgiving when they see others approaching them with good intentions, Dr. If you want to help your former friend, be specific in how you can lend a hand. Would that be OK? A thoughtfully worded sympathy card could go a long way to warming a friendship. When you share a thoughtful message, that person will be more open to taking you up on your offer of support. Wilkerson Miller suggests giving an authentic compliment to open a conversation. It looks beautiful.

The purpose of hanging

It can be tempting to ask to hop on a call or arrange a virtual happy hour, but that can be overwhelming. Send out a few low-pressure feelers a short or direct message on social media and see where it goes from there.

Oscar Ybarraa psychology professor at the University of Michigan. Tread carefully. Think about what you have to offer them. Wilkerson Miller said. When you do reconnect with those old friends, Dr. Franco recommends reminiscing about the past. Think about why you want closure and specifically about what went wrong.

Challenge #1: tap into your friends of friends network

Reaching out might not get you what you want, and could even make you feel worse. Franco says you should ask yourself if you have the psychological wherewithal to deal with that in this moment. Sometimes closure is something we have to give ourselves.

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Experts agreed that if you want to apologize or own up to bad behavior on your part, or direct messages over social media is a good place to re-establish contact. This way, your former friend can read your message in private and decide how they want to respond. You heard a former friend has been impacted by the virus and you want to check in Research shows that people tend to be forgiving when they see others approaching them with good intentions, Dr.

You need cheering up from an old pal Tread carefully. You need closure Think about why you want closure and specifically about what went wrong.